How dangerous can a woman’s temper be? Temper tantrums is a scary thing, considering that most women can hit and kick just as hard as men do, especially when adrenaline kicks in. They are just conditioned to not let the guys know this, simply because the image should remain. That women are soft and breakable and men are resistant to pain. This isn’t true either, and should not be an excuse for a woman to hurt her partner.
When a woman is already hurting her partner physically, it's not a tantrum. Physical violence is something else that should be treated psychologically. Anything violent should not be tolerated and can be a form of abuse. Children throw tantrums. Women and men do not throw tantrums if they've actually grown up. So I conclude, tantrums apply to people who have not grown up.
How do we define temper? Temper is a state of mind regarding calmness or anger. A term referring to a current state or display of temperament, commonly used in a negative context– eg, “She has a real bad temper today.”
There are many factors that affect a woman’s temper, some are as follows:
1. Hormonal Changes during Pregnancy -
Pregnancy affects each woman differently. Hormonal changes during pregnancy can indeed cause mood changes, starting from anxiety or agitations to developing major clinical symptoms of depression. There are physical development during pregnancy, thus pain is also present which collaborates to mood swings.
2. Depression -
When you are in a depression episode you don't eat well, avoid showers, which obviously affects the health. This is the reason why sometimes we feel sick even if we are not. Oftentimes, depression leads to suicidal thoughts too, because depression reaches the brain to be down and hopeless. It is just important, whether for a man or a woman, to know how to control their emotions and get away with it.
3. PMS -
Women may experience emotional and physical changes prior to menstruation. The medical term for these changes is "premenstrual syndrome," commonly called PMS. Premenstrual emotional and physical changes occur in nearly 80% of menstruating women, associated with PMS, ranging from breast tenderness to nausea to anger and irritability. Any physical changes affect the mood of a person.
4. Breaking the Woman’s Rules -
When something incredibly stupid is done to cause harm, a woman’s temper is no different than a man's. Anyone who gets hurt, physically or emotionally, can trigger its brainwaves to produce anger.
5. Childhood Experience -
Anybody who grew up with an environment where people express themselves with anger would be acting the same, most likely in dealing with stress or any kind of depressions. For someone who easily gets angry maybe a product of his/her childhood way of getting someone’s attention.
Whatever it is causing your partner to have the bad temper, it is important that you know how to deal with it. First, never gone wild with her. Second, avoid doing the things that make her angry over and over again. Others would advice that if a wife gets angry, the husband should run - just run and don't look back. Then buy a ring and give it to her, jewelry softens an angry woman's temper like nothing else. It is not because a woman is after presents. Anything that represents something that you remembered her would do. After all, it’s the thoughts that count! And for women, whenever you get angry, don’t count the thoughts yet, count one to a hundred to lower the anger before you say something harsh that you might regret forever.
Of all the things happening, most especially during misunderstanding and war between you and your partner, pray that anger would ease. Temper produces anger, and anger is a product of the devil to destroy families. There’s no one else better to approach during these times than God Who knows how to bring back the harmony to your relationship.
“Better a patient man than a warrior,
a man who controls his temper than one who takes a city.”
- Proverbs 16:32 (NIV)
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