Q&As 0001

Sharing one of the issues responded by Arda Torres posted on Women's blogs.

Concern: My Husband cheated on me and now he has a baby on the way.....

Me and my husband have been together for 10 years but married for 7 years. We have 2 kids boy and a girl. Our relationship has been rocky ever since the birth of my daughter last year in April. He was ready to leave but then we said that we would work things out 4 months after my daughter was born. I found out that I was pregnant again to me that was wonderful because kids are blessings from GOD, but to him it was the most horrible thing that could have happened to him. He was so nasty and ignorant to me and forced me to get an abortion. It broke my mind body and soul to have done that and I have so much anger towards him because of that so our relationship kept having it up and down. That happened last year in Oct. but yesterday some old flusy called me to let me know that she was 6 months pregnant with his baby. I'm so lost my heart hurts so bad I feel like I lost myself I asked him about it and he didn’t deny it he said that he gave her the money for the abortion and she said that she had ir done but she really didn’t....he said that he does not want to lose his family and that when that baby is born he is going to sign his rights over cuz he wants nothing to do with them......sorry that this so long but some advice would really be appreciated because right now breathing hurts.

Arda:

So sad that this thing happens..not only to you but to most women out there. But you have to face reality and be strong for your children. Getting hurt is life's way of making you a stronger person but it doesn't mean that you need to take all the pains. Nobody in this world could ever decide for you, but yourself... no matter how long my responses here would be. You decide now before the pain get to your kids. It's all up to you. Ask yourself now, "Can I bear all the pains I’m going through now?" If yes, how long? Choose between loosing your husband and yourself... if you can live without him, I would say it's better you let go of him. If you cannot stand loosing him, then I would say accept the pain and be prepared for more pains, unless he really meant to change for you and the kids. With all the marriage problems I have been encountering, I would always say, couples who pray and go to church together surpass trials easier. Keep in mind that it is a sin to kill and abortion is a form of killing. So I hope you won’t consider abortion in the future. Pray harder, nothing is better than the divine intervention on your marriage now. God has always plans for you. God bless you!